Healthy Relationships on the Scene Back

Aug 26, 2010

What in the heck is that?

Just kidding.

You want to ask if that even exists but as Imastepper pointed out in an article on chistepper.com there are quite a few (seemingly) happy couples - married or otherwise - on the scene. So it must be possible right?

But what makes it so? Trust, respect, open & honest communication, security (as in the opposite of insecurity), appreciation… what else? Self awareness and assuredness…discernment….CHOICE… knowledge of who you're dealing with and what that means… what else? What else? What else? Somebody out here is trying to make it work on the scene so help them with the recipe.

A good friend and I were a having this discussion the other day about how couples - especially high profile couples - might be well served to keep their dealings under wraps. It seems the greater community likes to feel as though they have access to the "superstars" and when they feel like they've lost their "access", begin to feel desperate, and feelings of desperation lead to ignorant actions. Once ignorance enters the folds, oh boy…. all manners of disrespectful and destructive foolishness are prone to run a muck.

Have we forgotten that when you disrespect another, you disrespect yourself? What you do to one you do to yourself, period. The good, the bad, and the ugly.

So what about that? What about "keepin' it on the hush?". My girl would say (actually she has said) "absolutely not" to the very notion. That if she and this fella are "together" it need be declared so er'ybody knows how it's going down. She goes further to suggest that to not make people aware is to invite opportunities to deceive to the party.

Well… I for one, am all for the "hush" if it means keeping the drama to a minimum. Information is power and I have no need for anyone puffing out their chest for the sake of a rise or intent to produce turmoil. Mind your beeswax and I'll mind mine.

As for the deception invitation. People are going to do (or not) whatever it is they want to do - the moment you think you're getting ready to control anyone other than yourself is the moment deception knocks. Go ahead, open the door, you're about to deceive yourself.

But we've gotten off track… healthy relationships on the scene. We have evidence across the country that they work but the question is how? What makes them work? Drop a line on the subject… someone will surely thank you for it...